I think young people have no idea, in spite of all the jokes made about getting old, how aging does cause some anxiety. Health becomes an issue and thus, every ache and pain may become significant. That is if you let it. Checking out of this world is another issue if you focus on it. I used to wonder what I'd do if I ever expereince a heart attack. How would I ever cope with it? Well, after living throught it, it's just as though the attack almost never happen. I should remind myself of it more often to keep my eating in line.
We bought our plot several years ago and we are seriously thinking about purchasing our tombstone and get it done. I had an uncle who shared with me how wierd it was going to the cemetery and seeing your name on a tombstone. I don't know but it seems to be a thoughtful thing to do so your kids don't have to bother with it. I think it would really be ridiculous to spend hundreds of dollars on one. There are too many ways to spend money for the living rather than mark a gravesite. Maybe the pioneers were right when they had a small rectangle stone with one's name and dates of birth and death on it. After your kids and grandkids, who is really going to pay a visit to your gravesite? Probably not many if any.
But getting back to fear, it can control one's life if you let it. Fear of failure at your job. Fear of losing at sports. Fear of losing the one who makes your life special. Fear of not looking as neat as someone else. Fear of not having the meal you prepared be as good as you want it to be. Fear of not getting top grades. Fear of not being invited to a party. The list can go on and on.
Some fears may seem insignificant to one person and yet to another, it can change your whole day. One just has to get what you are fearing in line with your priorities. I have improved the quality of my life by really asking myself how bad can it be? How awful will it be if I can't change the situation. I also remind myself of others who are in much worse shape either physically or socially. No need dealing with the what-ifs. That's a bad habit of mind and usually 90 percent of the time what I stewed about never came true. It really is a waste of time and energy.
Another thought provoking situation happened to me as I left Church last Sunday. I commented to a young man (father, teacher and coach Al Vasher) that one could attend a fund-raiser meal just about every weekend and sometimes more than one. I was admonished in the most polite way.
"How else would you want it? It's a great palce to live in a small community where everyone tries to help each other."
To that I say, "Amen."
When we critize so many youths who don't seem to have a brain in their head, it is very refreshing and reassuring there are good young folks taking our place. Another such young man has completed his college years and wants to go to Haiti to some missionary work. Lee Rainboth is an artist with many skills. The Grace Methodist Church in Marcus is having a fund-raiser for him to assist him in getting there and setting up shop so to speak. One can eat a baked potato with all the trimmings.
What will be much fun is the silent auction in conjunction with it. How about bidding on a dessert of the month brought to your home by Lorna Leavitt? Todd Wetherell is offering a 30-minute plane ride for five. Barb and Jerry Martin are putting up one evening in their "Hen House" for a gathering. The minister, Gary McDonough, is putting up a stained glass piece of art (he is very good at it). Peg Hohbach will come and decorate your home for Christmas and take it down afterwards. Others are offering pies, cheesecakes, cionnamon rolls and coffee cakes and many mouth-watering foods. It will be a fun time.
Now my fear is I won't get any of it as we have to go out of town for a family gathering I don't want to miss.
But alas, I am going to hope I can put in bid in before I go. Only time will tell.