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Gray Matters:Mothering isn't a boring chore

Monday, January 26, 2009

Today I am writing about a matter that seriously troubles me. At the outset, I want to make it perfectly clear that I do understand that times have changed and that, in some cases, it is absolutely necessary for women to work outside their homes.

Still, when I keep hearing women, in various media outlets, going on about the terrible lives led by their mothers and grandmothers, members of my generation, I am disturbed. They seem to be so sorry for us poor old things who were forced by circumstances to stay home and raise families, never having a chance to get out and compete for really fascinating jobs.

I find those allegations irritating and insulting. Somewhere, it seems, our society has lost its bearings. I was taught that we were created man and woman in order to procreate, to provide for the continuance of the human race.

At times, I begin to wonder if those outspoken gals would prefer some sort of cloning process. What has happened to the reverence for the nurturing qualities with which the Creator intended women to be endowed? Mothering isn't a boring chore, it's a very special calling. Nothing can take the place of the satisfaction afforded by caring for a loving husband and precious children.

I have never been very good at statistics, but I would like to know if someone has compared crime rates, delinquencies, and the like, among those of the baby boomers we raised, with similar statistics for today's young folks.

Might it be that children raised in stable two-parent homes ended up with fewer problems than those who are turned over to others for care, while their mothers, by choice, go out to compete with the men for "self-fulfilling" jobs? Also, aren't we hearing a great deal about the rapidly increasing jobless rate? Perhaps this might be a good time to seriously reduce the number of job-seekers rather than willfully increasing it

The argument that two incomes are necessary because of the escalating cost of living is also frequently used--another argument which I would like to refute. Budgets, on any level, are controlled either by increasing income or by decreasing spending. A good example of the latter in a family budget is the matter of home-cooked meals, as opposed to consuming take-out food. There's no comparison, in cost effectiveness, to say nothing of the things a knowledgeable mother can do to control caloric intake and improve nutrition, when she's in charge.

Another area of possible savings was addressed by one of those media mavens when she was telling how to reduce the cost of playthings. Her advice, which she implied was very up-to-date, brought chuckles from many of us. She made the point that the big boxes in which expensive gadgets are often packed could be used as inexpensive toys. She even went so far as to suggest that little folks might have more fun with them than with the gadgets they had contained. The truth is that my contemporaries and I have known that for ages!

I could go on much longer, but I will refrain and close by again refuting the suggestion that there are all sorts of careers more fulfilling than that of motherhood. That is simply not the case. No woman can be more satisfied or more worthy of adulation than a truly devoted mother!