Making holidays the best they can be

Friday, December 23, 2016

The holidays upon us should be a time filled with joy and love, yet for some it can be a season of great sadness and regret. Perhaps these timely reminders will help those struggling this time of year.

•Leave the ghosts of holidays passed in the past.  Certainly, many of us have unhappy memories from childhood or adult disappointments  and losses during the holidays. As the years go by, acknowledge the past—grieve for  awhile—and then go on each and every year to create new memories now. Take back the power from your ghosts.

•Reduce your expectations. Maybe the food won’t be perfect, maybe you’ll have a zit on your nose, or maybe there will be a disagreement or two.  Lower the bar. Expect reality—with all its wonders and warts.

•Participate in the wonder of the holidays.  For many, the holidays themselves are special from a religious standpoint, and this is enough. For others, we ourselves need to bring the special wonder to the holidays—the holidays won’t necessarily bring this to us.

•Re-think your role. The holidays may be a depressing time, and now we have economic crises to add to it. Leave the past behind, lower expectations, don’t expect a fairy tale, and reach out to others.

Let the holidays be your opportunity to embrace positivity and share good will with your fellowman!