Editorial

Communication key to 'senior spring'

Friday, March 31, 2017

Already into college but not yet out of high school. That is the burden of more than a few 12th graders struggling to reconcile the increasingly incongruous tasks of finishing childhood and starting adulthood perhaps making senior spring feel to them like the duration of childhood all over again.

While this season of discontent may ultimately smooth the transition to college, impending independence can present some challenging times for teens and parents alike.

Conflict during senior year is rooted in a complex context of events (including SATs and college applications), mental states (including stress, anxiety, and depression), and behaviors (including underage drinking and other drug use).

By extension, trust is often eroded by a slowdown, or in some cases a shutdown, in open, honest communication, creating a cycle of turmoil that leaves many kids anxious to escape and many parents eager to help them.

A healthy transition for kids and parents requires a mutual understanding and appreciation of the developmental dilemma on each side of the relationship, whether it's a young person's desire for more freedom or a parent's difficulty in letting go.

Effective, results-oriented, parent-child communication around the myriad of issues that accompany senior year can go a long way toward resolving conflict, restoring trust, and rescuing relationships that may be frayed.

Like all good negotiation, both parties must be open to listening to the other's point of view and to compromise.

As senior year draws to a close, parents must contend with a series of events that are commonly associated with alcohol and other drug use: spring vacation, prom, and graduation.

A National Youth Anti-Drug Media Campaign notes the dangers associated with the unstructured and often unsupervised time that accompanies school vacation week. Prom, too, is a time when even those teens inclined to walk the straight and narrow report pressure to drink, use drugs, or have sex.

And graduation doesn't get any easier.

Even for young people on the brink of independence, parents play a vital role in keeping them safe and alive during this particularly dangerous stretch of time.

Senior spring is, and should be, a time of reflection and anticipation of looking back while preparing to move forward. Helping teens celebrate the season safely will ultimately get them to where they are about to go.

Even though it may seem like they're already gone.